“We found that the happiest people take pleasure in other people’s successes and show concern in the face of others’ failures. A completely different portrait, however, has emerged of a typical unhappy person—namely, as someone who is deflated rather than delighted about his peers’ accomplishments and triumphs and who is relieved rather than sympathetic in the face of his peers’ failures and undoings.” ― The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want
Are you happy? Happiness matters. I might argue it’s the overcomplication of the pursuit of happiness that has robbed us of our ability to drink in joy. I might further advocate for less comparison and more compassion.
It’s only in my late thirties that I feel comfortable sharing that I see success differently. I believe that in order to be truly successful an individual must be completely attuned to and competent in compassion.
So stop for a second. Do the whole gut check thing. Don’t struggle with this one. Think of the most unhappy person in your life. That’s where you start.
Happiness awaits. You can ride it to success.